116. Mark Still Blames Me For Everything

I brought our home safe in to work today.  The dial is an electronic lock.  Mark had changed the combination so I couldn't get in.  I was quite sure there was nothing really in there, but decided I needed to check.

The guys said there was no way to open it without drilling it open.  What luck, we are a locksmith company.  So, Megan helped me put it in my car and I brought it in.

We decided to try every single combo we could before drilling: birthdays, anniversaries, etc.  We must have had 30 different codes to try.  The lock "locks you out" after 3 tries for 10 minutes.  The guys suggested I call Len and see if he had the combination.   If you remember, Mark had told Len how to break into our house the day after he was arrested.  The guys figured that maybe he gave Len the combination too.

114. Another Hearing - Face to Face With Mark

My anxiety from Monday's bond hearing finally was back to normal today.  Just in time to go to another hearing and to see Mark again.  Only this time he was 10 feet away.

When I originally found out that Mark had requested a bond hearing I immediately went to the court and filed a petition to modify my restraining order to include "exclusive use" of my house.

In hindsight, it was a silly thing to do.  It was just a knee jerk reaction I suppose.  Because, in reality, had Mark gotten out I most likely would have left Florida.  I realized that after I filed for the petition, but by then it was too late.  Once you file for modification you must appear.  If you don't appear then you are in contempt of court and can be arrested. 

111. Overwhelming Sadness

Well, the states attorney has not responded to my email yet.  I hate to feel like I am being bothersome or pushy, but Mark's bail hearing is Monday.  That's just four days.

If she hasn't contacted the North Palm Beach police at least by tomorrow then I doubt anyone will be there.

105. Attitude Changes and Carpentry

Yesterday, I printed Jenica's email to me right before I was leaving for the mediation.  I tossed the email up on the counter.  Next, I announced to the guys they should read it.  I put it there specifically for Joe's benefit.  

This morning I had a dentist appointment to have my crown put on.  It seems while I was at my appointment Chris and Pat had a long talk with Joe about the hearing.

89. Spackling the Holes In the Walls and My Heart

John "the barber" showed up this morning to the shop to pick up the transcripts and the voice CD.  The guys  played one of the death threats for him, so he could hear what they were like for us.  He did act appalled, but also felt sad for Mark.

While he was visiting he started relaying stories of the "early years that he knew Mark."  John has known Mark for nearly 25 years.  He talked about how Mark would harass and scream at Karen while at the shop.  He mentioned a time where Karen had run over to get a hair cut.  Mark walked in to where she was and started yelling at Karen for leaving the shop.  John said he had a lot of stories like that.

83. Packing Up the House

Megan and Claude were able to clean up all of the trash Mark had left.  They also have been boxing up my house.  Today is Sunday and Megan didn't have to work.  I had gone out there yesterday and dropped off more boxes.  I was shocked at how different the house looked.  They had packed up a ton of stuff and there were boxes stacked in the garage marked for him and me.  

When I left Saturday, Claude packed up the All-Safe van in our driveway with the boxes that belonged to me.  Today, both Megan and Claude followed me with Megan's car to my storage bin to unload all of the boxes and take the van to our shop.

67. The Arrest and Karma

It was pretty quiet all day after court.  Everything was normal.  When I got home I saw that the phone as unplugged.  Mark had called.  Chris didn't want Matthew to hear any recordings in case Mark started to leave nasty messages on their home phone again.

Mark called Kristin's cell phone.  He left a horrific message on her recording.  He said that he was glad she wasn't his 'blood' child and only adopted.  He said that was the reason she was so fucked up in the head, because her biological father had butt fucked her when she was 4 years old.  Kristin, being Kristin, ignored it and wrote it off to his illness.  I was angry.

Even so, I understand she was under a lot of stress just like me.  So, we all sat down and had a nice dinner.  Around 8 we put Matty to bed.  Then Kristin and I watched a show.  Chris was in his office.  I kept my cell phone off too.  I didn't want to hear 'his ring' in case he started a tirade again.  And, because of that, I didn't hear the Sheriff call:

64. Did I Violate Your Restraining Order Love?

Other then Mark harassing the people I know, it remained quiet for me at least Friday the 8th.  That is until around 4:45 P.M.  My cell phone rang.  I had previously added a specific ring for Mark, so I would know not to accidentally answer it.  It was that ring.  It only rang one time and a message wasn't left.  I assumed the call was an accidental dial and decided not to start fretting just yet.

About 5 minutes later I got a Facebook message.  Wade said, "Diana, Mark is posting on his page."  Since I have blocked Mark I cannot see anything he writes.  The following was what Mark posted (note he changed the date of the post to February 6th, which is both of our birthdays):

63. Waiting, Wondering, Worrying

You are probably wondering what happened after I received my temporary restraining order.  Ironically, I personally did not receive a single phone call or email for four straight days after his tirade of death threats on the 3rd.  It was quiet, too quiet, which made my stress level soar.  At least when he was calling from the house I knew exactly where he was. When he doesn't call I have to look over my shoulder every second.

The Sheriff's office called me on Wednesday the 6th to let me know they had 'served' the restraining order to him at 8:50 A.M.  Even after he was served I did not receive a single call or email.  I began to wonder maybe he had blacked out?  Did he even realize what he had done?  Did I over-react? NO, I know I didn't.  It remained quiet until Thursday the 7th.

I cannot even begin to explain the stress that all of us have gone through; myself, my family, and my staff throughout all of these days.  Mark had called all of the staff on the 3rd to say, "You're fired."  They actually called me to find out if they still had a job.  I told them to ignore Mark.  That is easier said then done when he continued to call.

On Thursday thinks were no longer quiet.  No, he didn't contact me in any way.  However, he did contact my friends, family and business friends.  Thursday night I received call after call from these people telling me that Mark had call to harass them.  I guess since he knew he couldn't contact me he would attack those I knew and they would tell me about it.  However, my restraining order is just for me only.  It is true that he cannot harass me via a third party.  But, he didn't call these people and ask them to call me, or even give me a message.  He knew these people would call me without him having to say a word.  It worked.  All I could do is apologize to them.

62. Temporary Restraining Order

There really are no words to adequately describe the sheer terror Mark had put me and my kids through for the past few days.  I couldn't use my cell phone at all.  I had to shut it off.  The moment I turned it on it would ring again.  He would also call the house, so Chris had to unplug the phone.  He didn't want Matthew to hear the vile recordings Mark was leaving on the answering machine.  Mark also called Kristin's phone and left messages.  Since I had blocked Mark on Facebook, he left vile messages about me on Kristin's Facebook account as well.  He also called the shop non-stop.  So much so that we had to call block my home number (the house where I lived with him) to make him stop.

If you read through the transcripts of yesterday you probably already understand why I was panicking.  It's not too often you have a person whom you loved that wants to kill you.  You probably also understand that I had a very sleepless night.

The first thing Monday morning I went directly to the Palm Beach County Courthouse in Palm Beach Gardens.  I found the Victim Services division and asked them for help.  A very nice lady named Susan was assigned to help me.

61. Court Transcripts - Part 1 - Death Threats

I spent every minute yesterday bracing myself for what comes next.  Today I found out just what that was...

Death Threats, rape threats and other threats are highlighted in yellow.

Actual Court Transcripts

60. Silence Is Very SCARY!

Saturday, March 2, 2013

I keep my cell phone off most of the time.  Mark calls non-stop, as you can see from the previous days.  He doesn't just call me, he calls the kids house and Kristin's cell phone as well.  She turns her's off too and we had to unplug the house phone.

You would think I would be thrilled that on this day I did not receive a single phone call, text message, email or Facebook message.  Instead, I felt my heart beating out of my chest.

When is it going to start again?  What made him stop?   He has said over and over he was going to come over.   Is he on his way here?

I don't know what is more stressful, the constant harassment, or the silence...