82. John the Barber Causes Anxiety

Today was just like any other normal Tuesday.  That is until "John the Barber" called Kristin on her drive home.  We call him that because he used to be a barber across the street from our shop.

Mark has known John for more then 30 years.  So, when John retired Mark decided to hire him and teach him locksmithing.  Let's just say that John is more artistic then mechanically inclined.  He didn't last here for more then a few months.

Kristin had called me on her way home from work.  She sounded happy, upbeat and asked if I would stop at Walgreen's to pick up her prescription since I had to drive right by the store.  I told her I was happy to do so.

74. Mental Abuse and Me

Today was my appointment with my counselor, Amber, with the Victim's Services Unit.  I must say I really like her.  For the first time I feel like someone really understands what is in my heart and my head.

Amber makes me think about a lot of things in a different way.  For instance, I was all for moving to Loxahatchee, but it wasn't even a couple of months that we lived there that Mark went wildly manic the first time in 2003.  In the past ten years following our move I have allowed myself to be alienated from my family.

68. Palm Beach County Jail and Jet

Mark Walter - Mugshot

It was after midnight when Mark was booked in the Palm Beach County jail on Gun Club road.  I imagine he was exhausted.  If you listened to the recordings and/or read the transcripts from last night (while he was leaving messages harassing me and breaking his restraining order) he yawned and mentioned several times how tired he was.

If you remember me saying last night the judge had issued an $800,000 bail the night before.  When Mark went to his first appearance in front of the judge at the jail, his bail was revoked.  I believe the judge felt it was too dangerous for him to be out.  Not to mention, he threatened the North Palm Beach police.  I'm pretty sure they don't take that too lightly.

Mark was arrested for the following:

65. No. It's Not Over...Yet..

Interestingly enough, Mark did as he has previously done and went completely silent again for the last two days. As I said before, that is as terrifying as when he is calling.  Maybe even more.  When he doesn't call I don't know where he is.

On Saturday the 9th, I had driven out to the Loxahatchee Sheriff's department to explain what was going on.  I told them to contact the North Palm Beach police.  They could explain about the probable cause and go pick Mark up, right?  Wrong.  After an hour of waiting for the Sheriff's to show up the main guy was rude and pretty condescending to me.  I mean, after all, Mark never actually laid a hand on me, right?  What was I worrying about?   I realized this wasn't going to be a quick arrest.

Now it is Monday.  I met with my legal aide attorney, Kathyrn, this morning at 9 AM.  She is who was assigned to me by the Domestic Violence Victims Unit to help me with my case and to get the transcripts ready for the judge.  It took nine hours just for her to go through the recordings. Kathyrn said that this was the longest intake she had ever done in her career.  She was also visibly disgusted  and disturbed by what she was hearing.

64. Did I Violate Your Restraining Order Love?

Other then Mark harassing the people I know, it remained quiet for me at least Friday the 8th.  That is until around 4:45 P.M.  My cell phone rang.  I had previously added a specific ring for Mark, so I would know not to accidentally answer it.  It was that ring.  It only rang one time and a message wasn't left.  I assumed the call was an accidental dial and decided not to start fretting just yet.

About 5 minutes later I got a Facebook message.  Wade said, "Diana, Mark is posting on his page."  Since I have blocked Mark I cannot see anything he writes.  The following was what Mark posted (note he changed the date of the post to February 6th, which is both of our birthdays):

63. Waiting, Wondering, Worrying

You are probably wondering what happened after I received my temporary restraining order.  Ironically, I personally did not receive a single phone call or email for four straight days after his tirade of death threats on the 3rd.  It was quiet, too quiet, which made my stress level soar.  At least when he was calling from the house I knew exactly where he was. When he doesn't call I have to look over my shoulder every second.

The Sheriff's office called me on Wednesday the 6th to let me know they had 'served' the restraining order to him at 8:50 A.M.  Even after he was served I did not receive a single call or email.  I began to wonder maybe he had blacked out?  Did he even realize what he had done?  Did I over-react? NO, I know I didn't.  It remained quiet until Thursday the 7th.

I cannot even begin to explain the stress that all of us have gone through; myself, my family, and my staff throughout all of these days.  Mark had called all of the staff on the 3rd to say, "You're fired."  They actually called me to find out if they still had a job.  I told them to ignore Mark.  That is easier said then done when he continued to call.

On Thursday thinks were no longer quiet.  No, he didn't contact me in any way.  However, he did contact my friends, family and business friends.  Thursday night I received call after call from these people telling me that Mark had call to harass them.  I guess since he knew he couldn't contact me he would attack those I knew and they would tell me about it.  However, my restraining order is just for me only.  It is true that he cannot harass me via a third party.  But, he didn't call these people and ask them to call me, or even give me a message.  He knew these people would call me without him having to say a word.  It worked.  All I could do is apologize to them.

62. Temporary Restraining Order

There really are no words to adequately describe the sheer terror Mark had put me and my kids through for the past few days.  I couldn't use my cell phone at all.  I had to shut it off.  The moment I turned it on it would ring again.  He would also call the house, so Chris had to unplug the phone.  He didn't want Matthew to hear the vile recordings Mark was leaving on the answering machine.  Mark also called Kristin's phone and left messages.  Since I had blocked Mark on Facebook, he left vile messages about me on Kristin's Facebook account as well.  He also called the shop non-stop.  So much so that we had to call block my home number (the house where I lived with him) to make him stop.

If you read through the transcripts of yesterday you probably already understand why I was panicking.  It's not too often you have a person whom you loved that wants to kill you.  You probably also understand that I had a very sleepless night.

The first thing Monday morning I went directly to the Palm Beach County Courthouse in Palm Beach Gardens.  I found the Victim Services division and asked them for help.  A very nice lady named Susan was assigned to help me.

61. Court Transcripts - Part 1 - Death Threats

I spent every minute yesterday bracing myself for what comes next.  Today I found out just what that was...

Death Threats, rape threats and other threats are highlighted in yellow.

Actual Court Transcripts

60. Silence Is Very SCARY!

Saturday, March 2, 2013

I keep my cell phone off most of the time.  Mark calls non-stop, as you can see from the previous days.  He doesn't just call me, he calls the kids house and Kristin's cell phone as well.  She turns her's off too and we had to unplug the house phone.

You would think I would be thrilled that on this day I did not receive a single phone call, text message, email or Facebook message.  Instead, I felt my heart beating out of my chest.

When is it going to start again?  What made him stop?   He has said over and over he was going to come over.   Is he on his way here?

I don't know what is more stressful, the constant harassment, or the silence...

59. My Estranged Husband the Cyber Stalker

Mark calls my cell phone non-stop.  He also calls Kristin's house phone and her cell phone as well. We had to unplug the home phone so Matthew won't hear his vile messages. We also had to call block our work phones yesterday as he was calling every line non-stop.  After we put the block on, Mark called 911.  He told the police something had to be wrong because we were not picking up. When the police came we had to explain what was going on.  The officer told me there was nothing he could do and I should think about a no contact order.

When you are reading / listening to these, keep in mind I did not respond to him either by phone, email, or Facebook.

Mark Walter messages to Diana Walter's cell phone
Friday, March 01, 2013 @ 8:30 AM
>> Recording Link <<

Hey, did my registration come in? Because, I have to go to Stuar.. Miami today.  And, uh I, I don't have a valid registration and you were going to fix that for me.  And, and I didn't hear back from ya.  So, can you call me please?  I need help. Thank you.

[recording ends]  

Mark Walter messages to Diana Walter's cell phone
Friday, March 1, 2013 @ 3:23 PM
>> Recording Link <<

I suggest you unblock me from my company.   And, I suggest you don't try to use those credit cards, or you will be arrested.

[recording ends]  

58. And the Storm Starts Brewing

Mark Walter messages to Diana Walter's cell phone
Thursday, February 28, 2013 @ 9:39 AM
>> Recording Link <<

Hey tomorrow's the 1st.  I need my rent.  So, I guess we'll do all of the key swapping when I get my rent check. Thank you.
 [recording ends]

Mark Walter messages to Diana Walter's cell phone
Thursday, February 28, 2013 @ 10:06 AM
>> Recording Link <<

Hey, two things.  I got a prospective buyer for the building.  So, umm that's one thing.  The other thing is I need that $10,000 I gave you for your uhh father back, please. So... tomorrow should be a pretty good payday for me. Bye.
[recording ends]

57. The Calm Before the Storm

I have placed some (not the short ones) of the recording links with the transcripts.  The recordings open in a new window.  You cannot really 'feel' what he is saying without hearing 'how' he says it.

Mark Walter message on Diana Walter's cell phone
Wednesday, February 27, 2013 @ 12:04 AM
>> Recording Link <<

Ya know your spending $50,000 with the Republican Party.  You're running my business and my building into the ground.  You have a condition called Asbergers which prevents you from thinking clearly.  Umm.  You need medication.  And, I need to seize control of everything back.  So, I don't know what you are going to do honey.  I think you should go to an insane asylum.  I think that would be your best bet.  What do you think?  They can adjust your dosages.  And then, you know, you can uhh, get better.  Because we all just want you to get better honey.  We all just want you to get better.

56. And Why Would Tuesday Be Any Better?

I held my breath this morning to see what today would be like.  Imagine my surprise to get to work to this email after the abuse of yesterday:

55. No Good Deed Goes Unpunished

Monday was pretty busy at work.  Mark called a few times in the morning and sounded 'normal' - well, as normal as he can be.  He called to tell me he got his car back.  He also said he made a dermatology appointment for Thursday.  Most of the day was fine - until right before we closed.  Then, all of sudden all hell broke loose.

When I got the very first message, all I could think was OH NO!! Mr. Hyde showed up!!!!!

I had over 30 phone calls from him today and many voice messages.

50. CucKoOo CoooOOOooo

I should have kept my mouth shut yesterday.  I criticized his listing of the house.  Yes, it was completely false.  But, I know better then to say anything.

I also did not respond to his request for a date night until the morning, so that also gave him ammunition to go a bit crazy.  Unfortunately, that's exactly what happened.

46. Superwoman, Packing and Storing

I had planned for a week to go to my house on Thursday to get as much as I could before Mark was 'served.'  So, on Tuesday I rented a 5x10 storage shed.  They had a special that gave you a truck with your first rental for free.  I was happy about the free rental. I need to save money wherever I can right now.

I had not told Mark ahead of time that Megan and I were coming out.  On Wednesday, the before we were scheduled to go there I started receiving emails from Mark:

35. Wednesday - Another Day Another Nightmare

I haven't written in awhile, so none of you know about Mark's "new business" he is starting, 1141 Gold and Pawn (or something like that).  Yes, he has been spending thousands of dollars buying gold coins via EBAY.

He removed me from his Discover account so I couldn't see what he is doing.  He has also cashed out all of his life insurance policies as well.  I am sure I haven't mentioned that he is also buying a brand new Corvette. He says, "He deserves it."  He tried to get me to co-sign for it last Friday when he went to the Credit Union for a loan.  I refused. They refused him credit, so he is very angry with me.  My understanding is he is having it delivered C.O.D.  It's going to be interesting to see what happens next.  He has no money to pay for it.

34. I can't think of one so "Insert Title Here"...

Monday, January 7, 2013

6:23 P.M.


6:46 P.M.

32.The Longest Night From Hell (Part 2)

Friday Evening, December 28, 2012

As I stated in The Longest Day From Hell (Part 1), I was incredibly exhausted and couldn't wait to just go home and not think anymore.

My friend Dixie called me as I was driving home.  When I answered the phone she said, "Diana, are you OK???"  I immediately responded, "Did Mark do something?"  If you remember, Dixie was the one that called me the first morning after I left Mark.  She was the one that informed me he had killed my parrot.  She told me that Mark had contacted Wade on Facebook (Dixie, Wade and I are BFF's on Facebook - yes I know that sounds silly, but we are).

31.The Longest Day From Hell (Part 1)

Looney Tunes

Friday, Daytime, December 28, 2012

I was in the shower this morning when Kristin burst in the bathroom.  She said, "Mama, Chris just called. Daddy is at the shop!"  Mark has not been at the shop in exactly one month.

I never expected him to show up there today.  Mark had said just two days earlier that he was thinking about extending his 'sabbatical' until February. I knew I had not logged out of Facebook or my email at work.  That would be the very first thing he would do is look at ALL of my stuff.

My heart immediately started pounding out of my chest. I jumped out of the shower wrapped a towel around me and ran into Chris's office to change all of the passwords on my accounts.  Then I got ready as quickly as I could to get to the shop.  When i arrived he was not there, but our puppy Jet was.  Chris said he had gone to his appointment at Dr. Towards (his GP), but was coming back.