80. Happy Easter 2013

As with every holiday we strive to be at peace with our family.  Today is Easter Sunday and all of the frustration of the past few days has been put on hold.

Today Kristin, Chris, Matty and I went to Longhorn Steaks for lunch.  After we got home we headed to the beach and had a great time.

It was a very nice, pleasant, uneventful day.

79. Apartment Hunting and Jail Visits

I'll take door #1 Alex!

Last night Kristin berated me again.  I  really don't post too much the things she says to me, because it is very hurtful.  She is so very very sweet to everyone.  And, most of the time she is sweet to me too.  But, there are many times she takes the opportunity to 'talk down to me' and I just don't know what to say or do.

78. To Foreclose or Not to Forclose - Nancy Drysdale

Drysdale Real Estate

When I had met with Curtis yesterday I realized I was probably going to have to let my house go into foreclosure.  I dreaded having to do this.  I have spent the last 25 years getting my credit to near perfect.  

There was no way I was going to be able to afford to fix up our house.  It would cost thousands of dollars that I do not have.  I also know I have to take Mark off of the payroll.  He has been on the payroll since I left him in November and he has not worked since then.  It has hurt our company very much having to pay someone that doesn't work, plus pay all of the payroll taxes on top of it. But, I needed his paycheck to make the house payment, pay all of the utilities, the lawn service/gardners, etc.  My paycheck alone just isn't enough. 

77. I Fired My Attorney Today & Hired A Great One

Curtis Witters

I know I haven't talked about my divorce attorney too much.  Most likely because I just don't like her.  Robin Roshkind bills for everything.  And, I mean everything.  

When Mark was in the middle of his tirade calling me he also called her.  She emailed me and asked me to send a recent picture of him to put downstairs at security.  I complied.  When I got her bill, she charged me for writing that email to me.  She charged me for responding to her email sending the picture to her.  She charged me for every phone call Mark made to her office.  She charged me for a "staff meeting" she had with her 2 employees about Mark.

I hired her at the end of January.  In just slightly under two months she has used up the entire $5,000 retainer.  And, the only thing she has actually done for me to date is file for my divorce.  Heck, I could have done that part myself and saved a ton of money.  There were other things too that I won't go into.    I had wanted to fire her for a long time, but because my friend Bonnie recommended her I kept thinking I needed to give her a chance.  She had recommended her after all.  Suffice to say I had just had it.

76. Packing and Cleaning - Megan and Claude

Despite my oldest daughter being totally against my youngest daughter, Megan, moving into my house with Claude, I went ahead and gave my blessing for them to do so.  They offered to clean up all of the trash and pack the 'stuff' for me, in lieu of rent.  Who am I to look a gift horse in the mouth?

It is clear they can't possibly move in the way the house is right now.  In fact, it will take a many days to get it in any condition for anyone to live there, but they are willing to do it.

I took them both to the store and bought a bunch of cleaning supplies for them today.  I also bought more boxes and tape.

As I said before, I didn't make that mess.  I just do not wish to fix anything else for Mark.  He did this. Not me.  I am grateful they have offered to do this so I don't have to..

75. Direct TV Bills

74. Mental Abuse and Me

Today was my appointment with my counselor, Amber, with the Victim's Services Unit.  I must say I really like her.  For the first time I feel like someone really understands what is in my heart and my head.

Amber makes me think about a lot of things in a different way.  For instance, I was all for moving to Loxahatchee, but it wasn't even a couple of months that we lived there that Mark went wildly manic the first time in 2003.  In the past ten years following our move I have allowed myself to be alienated from my family.

73. Tears and Anger

• I have had only one counseling appointment.  In that first session she told me she was going to teach me to stop blaming myself for the things Mark has done.  I'm looking forward to that, because lI woke up at least five times last night.   After seeing Mark like that yesterday, it was very depressing. The guilt creeped in.  I was in tears most of the night.  
  

  
  I hate to admit that it was a bit helpful to me to know that Chris felt the very same way.  When we got to work he told me that he woke up several times during the night after seeing Mark like that.
  
  

  This morning at work Mark's brother Bruce called me at work.  He told me that Mark had called him after court yesterday.  Mark told his brother that "Diana is going to be arrested soon for the Discover fraud."  I think believe I previously told you about how Mark had cancelled my card right after I left.  Then he ordered a new one to be sent to the house (where I do not live) and started using the card in my name.  Mark then reported me to Discover for fraud.

72. Gun Club Hearing

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  I'm pretty sure you already figured out that I didn't sleep at all last night.  I kept waking up in a panic about the hearing I knew I had to be at today.  I kept thinking and wondering if I would have to see Mark.  I so did not want to go to this.
  
  This hearing was only for the City of Riveria Beach charges.  It had nothing to do with the stalking charges against me.
  
  Detective Rott showed up at our shop about 8:15 AM.  The first thing I asked him is if Mark would be there.  He told me, "Most likely."  At that very moment I felt like I was going to throw up.
  
  The detective had told us yesterday that we needed at least two of us to go.  I assumed it would be Chris to go with me.  But, it seems last night, him and Kristin got into a HUGE fight about the hearing.  Kristin felt that we shouldn't go at all.  She believed that we were "bullying" Mark by going to the hearing and allowing more charges to be filed.
  
  

71. More Charges Against Mark

If you remember from the recordings, Mark didn't just threaten my life, he threatened my son-in-laws, my daughter's, grandson's, my sister, parents and my staff's lives too.

Chris had called the police back on March 4th when they heard the recordings on the answering service at the shop.  The city of Riviera Beach police came and took the report.  We didn't hear anything from then since that time.  I didn't think a lot about it as my case was what put him in jail.  However today, Captain Mamino from the City of Riviera police showed up at our shop.

70. Sunny Forecast Turns to Stormy

My day started out so great. Started off feeling on top of the world. It was my youngest Megan's 29th birthday.  She had to work.  So, I decided to treat myself instead.

I had an appointment to go and get my hair cut.  In the middle of my appointment, Len called (the one that took Jet and Mark) called my cell.. He said "We have some things to talk about," so I told him I'd have to call back later.

When I was done with my hair I went to 2 gun places. Neither had the gun Dixie told me about. Then I asked about lessons. He said 1 class is $50 for 1 hour, plus gun rental if you don't have one, plus the cost of the range. I left with nothing. It was very disheartening.

69. I Started State Counseling Today

Amber

Today was my first counseling session with the State's Victim counseling Service.  Meet Amber.  She is as nice as she looks.  But, man is she also one smart cookie.

In today's session I mostly had to fill out paperwork.  I was able to tell her a bit about my life with Mark.  She explained to me that victims of domestic abuse suffer from PTSD.  It was very hard for me to wrap my head around.  Isn't that the thing that happens to Military people after being in war?  After speaking with her I learned that isn't the case.

My last counselor didn't make me feel as she understood what I was going through.  Nor did she seem to know what to do to help me.  Amber is trained in crisis counseling and domestic abuse.  Just in this first session it was apparent to me she understands what I am going through.

I'm looking forward to seeing her.  My appointments are every week on Friday's.

68. Palm Beach County Jail and Jet

Mark Walter - Mugshot

It was after midnight when Mark was booked in the Palm Beach County jail on Gun Club road.  I imagine he was exhausted.  If you listened to the recordings and/or read the transcripts from last night (while he was leaving messages harassing me and breaking his restraining order) he yawned and mentioned several times how tired he was.

If you remember me saying last night the judge had issued an $800,000 bail the night before.  When Mark went to his first appearance in front of the judge at the jail, his bail was revoked.  I believe the judge felt it was too dangerous for him to be out.  Not to mention, he threatened the North Palm Beach police.  I'm pretty sure they don't take that too lightly.

Mark was arrested for the following:

67. The Arrest and Karma

It was pretty quiet all day after court.  Everything was normal.  When I got home I saw that the phone as unplugged.  Mark had called.  Chris didn't want Matthew to hear any recordings in case Mark started to leave nasty messages on their home phone again.

Mark called Kristin's cell phone.  He left a horrific message on her recording.  He said that he was glad she wasn't his 'blood' child and only adopted.  He said that was the reason she was so fucked up in the head, because her biological father had butt fucked her when she was 4 years old.  Kristin, being Kristin, ignored it and wrote it off to his illness.  I was angry.

Even so, I understand she was under a lot of stress just like me.  So, we all sat down and had a nice dinner.  Around 8 we put Matty to bed.  Then Kristin and I watched a show.  Chris was in his office.  I kept my cell phone off too.  I didn't want to hear 'his ring' in case he started a tirade again.  And, because of that, I didn't hear the Sheriff call:

66. Permanent Restraining Order - Judge Krista Marx

Judge Krista Marx

Once again Mark went silent on Tuesday the 12th.  I didn't receive a single phone call, email, nothing.  On Wednesday my court appearance was set at 8:30 AM in front of Judge Marx in the Palm Beach County courthouse North Division in Palm Beach Gardens.

I was met in the lobby by Susan, my Victims Advocate, Susan.  There was a lot of other people in the waiting area around me.  Susan told me to wait there and Kathryn, my legal aide attorney, would be with me in a bit.

I had wondered and worried whether Mark would show up.  He didn't.  What seemed like an eternity was really only about 40 minutes.  The Sheriff came over and told me it was my turn to go in.

65. No. It's Not Over...Yet..

Interestingly enough, Mark did as he has previously done and went completely silent again for the last two days. As I said before, that is as terrifying as when he is calling.  Maybe even more.  When he doesn't call I don't know where he is.

On Saturday the 9th, I had driven out to the Loxahatchee Sheriff's department to explain what was going on.  I told them to contact the North Palm Beach police.  They could explain about the probable cause and go pick Mark up, right?  Wrong.  After an hour of waiting for the Sheriff's to show up the main guy was rude and pretty condescending to me.  I mean, after all, Mark never actually laid a hand on me, right?  What was I worrying about?   I realized this wasn't going to be a quick arrest.

Now it is Monday.  I met with my legal aide attorney, Kathyrn, this morning at 9 AM.  She is who was assigned to me by the Domestic Violence Victims Unit to help me with my case and to get the transcripts ready for the judge.  It took nine hours just for her to go through the recordings. Kathyrn said that this was the longest intake she had ever done in her career.  She was also visibly disgusted  and disturbed by what she was hearing.

64. Did I Violate Your Restraining Order Love?

Other then Mark harassing the people I know, it remained quiet for me at least Friday the 8th.  That is until around 4:45 P.M.  My cell phone rang.  I had previously added a specific ring for Mark, so I would know not to accidentally answer it.  It was that ring.  It only rang one time and a message wasn't left.  I assumed the call was an accidental dial and decided not to start fretting just yet.

About 5 minutes later I got a Facebook message.  Wade said, "Diana, Mark is posting on his page."  Since I have blocked Mark I cannot see anything he writes.  The following was what Mark posted (note he changed the date of the post to February 6th, which is both of our birthdays):

63. Waiting, Wondering, Worrying

You are probably wondering what happened after I received my temporary restraining order.  Ironically, I personally did not receive a single phone call or email for four straight days after his tirade of death threats on the 3rd.  It was quiet, too quiet, which made my stress level soar.  At least when he was calling from the house I knew exactly where he was. When he doesn't call I have to look over my shoulder every second.

The Sheriff's office called me on Wednesday the 6th to let me know they had 'served' the restraining order to him at 8:50 A.M.  Even after he was served I did not receive a single call or email.  I began to wonder maybe he had blacked out?  Did he even realize what he had done?  Did I over-react? NO, I know I didn't.  It remained quiet until Thursday the 7th.

I cannot even begin to explain the stress that all of us have gone through; myself, my family, and my staff throughout all of these days.  Mark had called all of the staff on the 3rd to say, "You're fired."  They actually called me to find out if they still had a job.  I told them to ignore Mark.  That is easier said then done when he continued to call.

On Thursday thinks were no longer quiet.  No, he didn't contact me in any way.  However, he did contact my friends, family and business friends.  Thursday night I received call after call from these people telling me that Mark had call to harass them.  I guess since he knew he couldn't contact me he would attack those I knew and they would tell me about it.  However, my restraining order is just for me only.  It is true that he cannot harass me via a third party.  But, he didn't call these people and ask them to call me, or even give me a message.  He knew these people would call me without him having to say a word.  It worked.  All I could do is apologize to them.

62. Temporary Restraining Order

There really are no words to adequately describe the sheer terror Mark had put me and my kids through for the past few days.  I couldn't use my cell phone at all.  I had to shut it off.  The moment I turned it on it would ring again.  He would also call the house, so Chris had to unplug the phone.  He didn't want Matthew to hear the vile recordings Mark was leaving on the answering machine.  Mark also called Kristin's phone and left messages.  Since I had blocked Mark on Facebook, he left vile messages about me on Kristin's Facebook account as well.  He also called the shop non-stop.  So much so that we had to call block my home number (the house where I lived with him) to make him stop.

If you read through the transcripts of yesterday you probably already understand why I was panicking.  It's not too often you have a person whom you loved that wants to kill you.  You probably also understand that I had a very sleepless night.

The first thing Monday morning I went directly to the Palm Beach County Courthouse in Palm Beach Gardens.  I found the Victim Services division and asked them for help.  A very nice lady named Susan was assigned to help me.

61. Court Transcripts - Part 1 - Death Threats

I spent every minute yesterday bracing myself for what comes next.  Today I found out just what that was...

Death Threats, rape threats and other threats are highlighted in yellow.

Actual Court Transcripts

60. Silence Is Very SCARY!

Saturday, March 2, 2013

I keep my cell phone off most of the time.  Mark calls non-stop, as you can see from the previous days.  He doesn't just call me, he calls the kids house and Kristin's cell phone as well.  She turns her's off too and we had to unplug the house phone.

You would think I would be thrilled that on this day I did not receive a single phone call, text message, email or Facebook message.  Instead, I felt my heart beating out of my chest.

When is it going to start again?  What made him stop?   He has said over and over he was going to come over.   Is he on his way here?

I don't know what is more stressful, the constant harassment, or the silence...

59. My Estranged Husband the Cyber Stalker

Mark calls my cell phone non-stop.  He also calls Kristin's house phone and her cell phone as well. We had to unplug the home phone so Matthew won't hear his vile messages. We also had to call block our work phones yesterday as he was calling every line non-stop.  After we put the block on, Mark called 911.  He told the police something had to be wrong because we were not picking up. When the police came we had to explain what was going on.  The officer told me there was nothing he could do and I should think about a no contact order.

When you are reading / listening to these, keep in mind I did not respond to him either by phone, email, or Facebook.

Mark Walter messages to Diana Walter's cell phone
Friday, March 01, 2013 @ 8:30 AM
>> Recording Link <<

Hey, did my registration come in? Because, I have to go to Stuar.. Miami today.  And, uh I, I don't have a valid registration and you were going to fix that for me.  And, and I didn't hear back from ya.  So, can you call me please?  I need help. Thank you.

[recording ends]  

Mark Walter messages to Diana Walter's cell phone
Friday, March 1, 2013 @ 3:23 PM
>> Recording Link <<

I suggest you unblock me from my company.   And, I suggest you don't try to use those credit cards, or you will be arrested.

[recording ends]