46. Superwoman, Packing and Storing

I had planned for a week to go to my house on Thursday to get as much as I could before Mark was 'served.'  So, on Tuesday I rented a 5x10 storage shed.  They had a special that gave you a truck with your first rental for free.  I was happy about the free rental. I need to save money wherever I can right now.

I had not told Mark ahead of time that Megan and I were coming out.  On Wednesday, the before we were scheduled to go there I started receiving emails from Mark:

45. Panic in the Ranks

Wouldn't it be magical to live in a world where you could just push a button on a web page and the bills were paid?

I couple of weeks ago I had noticed that our Mastercard company, USAA, had raised our credit limit to $22,000.  I immediately called them and told them to lower it to the lowest it could go.  The agent was very nice.  He informed me that the card had now reached $18,600, so the most they could lower it to $19,000.  I had him do that and then put a hold on the card.  Mark has been charging everything to the credit cards, because he lost his debit card.

44. And the Debt Keeps Right On Building!

I spent a lot of Saturday and Sunday trying to get documents ready for the attorney on Monday.  She had told me the more I can give to her the less it will cost me.  I am doing my best to get as much as I can.

Chris, Kristin and Matthew came to visit me yesterday.  It was nice to see them.  Later I went over to the shop to print out more information.  Mark called me and asked if I wanted to go to dinner.  I told him I couldn't.  It seems he had Paulie (the rip off) over again, even after I told Paulie to stay away from my house.  I saw that Mark had written him a check for $1,000 our of our checking account.  I guess I will have to stop payment on all of our checks now.

43. The Beginning of the End...

http://www.familylawwpb.com/

Chris's mom left today to fly to Tucson.  His sister is visiting there, so she is meeting her and her husband for a few days before they all fly back to Australia.  Chris came in later after driving her to the Ft. Lauderdale airport.

Mark's rescheduled psychiatrist appointment was today.  I told myself this one is "make or break."  I wanted to see if he could be put on disability.  I kind of assumed he would call me and tell me that he cancelled it again.  Instead, he called me to tell me that he needed a ride.

Remember his car isn't running, he still doesn't have his drivers license, and his work van probably wouldn't make it without breaking down.  Honestly, I didn't even want him to try to drive his van.  If he were to get into an accident in the All-Safe van we most likely would be sued.  So, like the great little enabler that I am I agreed to drive out there.  I told him I would be there by 12:45ish.  His appointment was at 1:30.

42. Coin Depot - The Non-Existent Company

You have previously heard me talk about Mark's "new company" he started called, 1141 N. Ocean Inc.Coin Depot.  Granted, this is not a 'real' company.  It is just a Face Book page he made to justify him spending thousand upon thousands of dollars on the Discover Card to buy Gold Coins: https://www.facebook.com/1141NOceanIncCoinDepot

I also explained that Mark removed me from Discover.  I cannot see what he has bought. I have no control on how much he spends.  I can only hope that since I am not on the account that I am not responsible for all of this debt.  He has all of the coins.  However, since he decided to give me his password, I took the liberty of logging in as him and copied all of the EBAY posts:

41. Cars and How Not to Blow Them Up

I'm pretty sure I told you that Mark blew up the engine in his car.  I may have forgotten, but things just happen so fast these days.  Mark had bought a used 2003 Infiniti a few months ago.  It is a very pretty car and he got it $4,000 below Blue Book.

Chris told him to make sure to go have a mechanic check it all out before or after he bought it.  You just never know what you are getting and that would be the safe and smart thing to do.  Mark was already on the downhill spiral at this point.  He never had the car checked out.

Mark called me around 11:30 AM on the 14th which was the day I went to meet my attorney for the very first time.  He said he was coming in to the shop and would I like him to bring lunch.  I told him no I had an appointment.  He said he was going to call Chris to ask him if he wanted anything.  It turns out he never showed up.

40. Mr. Hyde Makes His Thoughts Known

Today is Martin Luther King's birthday.  Chris took the day off to spend with his mom who is still visiting from Australia.  It was very slow at the shop as most companies and agencies are closed.  We decided to close the shop at 1:30 PM since we didn't have any calls.  I figured it would be a good morale booster for the guys.  I also thought it would give me a chance to go back to the house and keep on cleaning.  After being at the house cleaning on Saturday I could plainly see what I was up against.  So, I took long rubber gloves and a mask with me.

I could tell something was not quite right from the moment I arrived.  Mark was not the jovial Dr. Jekyl from Saturday.  I tried to brush it off that I might just be paranoid.  He asked me to take him to the store to get some groceries.  You need to remember he has no cash, no debit card (he lost it), no drivers license (he lost it), and no real usable vehicle.  I don't know if I previously mentioned that he blew up the engine of his car.

39. Cleaning Day - Saturday - Part 2 - Deep Thoughts

I understand now that my husband is very manipulative.  Perhaps I really have known this for a long time, but just closed my eyes to it.  But, in reality it has become very clear to me since I have been away from him and not in the middle of the madness.

But, my heart still rules my head a lot of the time.  I cannot help but think about my husband of almost two decades being so sick and all alone.  When I close my eyes I picture him scared, lonely, confused and not understanding why this is happening.  On the one hand, I want to hold him and tell him everything is going to be OK.  I want to beg him to take his meds and he will get better.  I also want to shake him hard to try to shake some sense into him.

38. Cleaning Day - Saturday - Part 1 - Daytime (Warning - Graphic Intensive)

WARNING! GRAPHIC INTENSIVE!

We have come to relate Mark's moods to the Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde mode. When he is happy and agreeable he is in his Dr. Jekyl mode.  When he is angry and hateful he is in his Mr. Hyde mode.  Lately most of the time he is in the Mr. Hyde mode.

 I had talked to Mark and he sounded 'happy' and was in the Dr. Jekyl mode.  Against my better judgement - and the advice of all of my friends and family - I went out to the house today.  I know if we do not clean up the mess the house will never be sold.  I decided to give it a shot.

Since you haven't seen the house since I left, these pictures will give you a 'little' idea what I am up against.

Here are some pictures of my beautiful house.

37. A Star is NOT Born!

http://m2-pictures.com/

I forgot all about telling you that "Lucie" has been contacting me again.  It seems even after I told her there wasn't a snowballs chance in hell we would be doing this reality show she just wouldn't believe me.  Mark had convinced her via email that he and I were "patching things up."

It really is rather sad, considering this was not a joke at all.  They are a very reputable company and have a lot of well known reality shows (see link above).  This would have been a once in a lifetime opportunity for us, which most likely will never happen again in our lifetime.  But, under the circumstances, there is no way we could do anything of the sort with Mark in the condition he is in.

I got this email from her on January 3rd:
-----------------------------------------

36. Temporary - Home Sweet Home

I'm sure you are wondering why I haven't written for awhile.  I believe I explained before sometimes I don't want to write because I have to relive the events of the day and it makes me sad.  I have also realized in this "new reality" nothing stays the same from the morning until the night.  Things may be said and change completely within 15 minutes.

In a sane world if I were to write something on Friday and you were to read it on Monday you would think, "Wow, I wonder how she handled that."  In the meantime 20 other things had happened since I wrote the original post.  I'd be trying to explain why the last post no longer mattered.

35. Wednesday - Another Day Another Nightmare

I haven't written in awhile, so none of you know about Mark's "new business" he is starting, 1141 Gold and Pawn (or something like that).  Yes, he has been spending thousands of dollars buying gold coins via EBAY.

He removed me from his Discover account so I couldn't see what he is doing.  He has also cashed out all of his life insurance policies as well.  I am sure I haven't mentioned that he is also buying a brand new Corvette. He says, "He deserves it."  He tried to get me to co-sign for it last Friday when he went to the Credit Union for a loan.  I refused. They refused him credit, so he is very angry with me.  My understanding is he is having it delivered C.O.D.  It's going to be interesting to see what happens next.  He has no money to pay for it.

34. I can't think of one so "Insert Title Here"...

Monday, January 7, 2013

6:23 P.M.


6:46 P.M.